Recently I was pondering over this term, "Meant to be". Each of us has used it at some point of time. I suspect that my entire college life I had used only that to console my heart broken friends. Of course to myself. To actually say it out loud, I had based an entire relationship on that, embarrassingly so. How do we decide what is "meant to be"? To begin with, what do we mean when we say meant to be?
It has got some major assumptions. There is a predestined path for each of us. It is decided already, how our future going to turn out to be. We are just blind people grazing through the bright world, which has got all the answers of our existence. Sometimes, by a moment of sight or something we touch, this truth is revealed to us. The 'Meant to be". OK. This is beyond acceptable to me. I am a strict follower of free will. This theory reduces free will to a joke.
But why are people buying this stuff? The love, patience and effort required in a relationship are discarded as mere by products of so-called meant to be. Isn't it great to feel that "we are together because we liked each other so much and could not stand any other way of life rather than with each other"? Doesn't that give you strength as opposed to being part of someone else' plan?
I guess not. The underlying power of this "Meant to be" is our basic need for a higher power. A guide to our lost lives. We like to believe that our lives are not drifting away direction less, wasted in course of time. So, we love the idea of someone far greater than us approving of our choices in life, a career, a dream house or our life partner. Moreover, there is endless chaos in love. I have seen many relationships, that ended in marriage, suffer through patches of time when they were sure that things were going downhill. Anything pertaining to heart is messy, all that it wants is twisted.
With such ever-puzzling tone in relationships, it is soothing to think that the one sure shot way of finding if we are heading towards "Happily Ever After" (another cliche), is to WAIT. It could be for a dazzling neon sign of "Meant to be" or an inner search for our own stand.
Happy Valentine's Day!!! (Belated)
