Wednesday, February 23, 2011

Poetry - 12


jaripadi thullipoyedoka deham
jadisi kuda murusukunedoka pranam
kanneeti korathaleni kanulaina
kalalleni kammani nidra thanaku sontham
thelisinadokate, sneham
theliyanidhi okate, prapancham
greeshmam vedisegalalo vesavi selavalu chusindhi
varshapu varada pravahamlo kagithapu noukalu vadilindhi
hemantha utsava kolahalamlo kotha battalakai vechindhi
mabbu jadaleni sarath rathri chukkalu lekkinchindhi
thana jwarathakidike seethala sisiram jwalinchindhi
thana drushtithone vasanthodaya gola koyila ganamaindhi
guppetlo bandhinchina adhe antarikshamandhi thana swechavadam
chethirekhalane vanavillula marchindhi thana oohasoudham

జారిపడి తుల్లిపోయీదొక దేహం
జడిసి కూడా మురుసుకునేదొక ప్రాణం
కన్నీటి కొరతలేని కనులైన
కలల్లేని కమ్మని నిద్ర తనకు సొంతం
thelisinadokate, స్నేహం
తెలియనిది ఒకటే , ప్రపంచం
గ్రీష్మం వేదిసేగాలలో వేసవి సెలవలు చూసింది
వర్షపు వరద ప్రవాహంలో కాగితపు నౌకలు వదిలింది
హేమంత ఉత్సవ కోలాహలంలో కొత్త బట్టలకి వేచింది
మబ్బు జడలేని శరత్ రాత్రి చుక్కలు లెక్కించింది
తన జ్వరతకిదికే శీతల శిశిరం జ్వలించింది
తన దృష్టితోనే వసంతోదయ గోల కోయిల గానమైంది
గుప్పెట్లో బంధించిన అదే అంతరిక్షమంది తన స్వేచావడం
చేతిరేఖలనే వనవిల్లుల మార్చింది తన ఊహసౌధం

Tuesday, February 22, 2011

What not to do with whom?


So, may be I can't give you info on how to impress a Taurean boss, woo a Sagittarian girl, raise a Scorpio kid or make a Gemini employ work... But definitely I can give a short but important list of don'ts with each sun-sign

  • Never try to change a Taurean mind
  • Never argue with a Libran
  • Never criticize a Virgo
  • Never hurt a Piscean
  • Never rely on a Gemini, (especially to be on time)
  • Never lie or hide truth infront of a Sagittarian
  • Never try to drag away Capricorn from his family
  • Never think you could get a secret out of Cancerian
  • Never drag things too long with Arien
  • Never get attached to an Aquarian a lot
  • Never show disrespect or hurt the pride of a Leo
  • Never raise the voice or order a Scorpio to get things done

Monday, February 14, 2011

Happy Valentines day


So guys.. As usual for the final post I have collected opinions from people about a question related to unhappy singles.

The question goes as..

"you have a best friend who broke up with his/her girl friend/boy friend and the girl/boy moved on (in love with someone else) but your friend still thinks of him/her. What will you do?"

And the response goes...

vineesha: To overcome ..may b she can go for things which she is intersted in.. join a dance class, go shopping, get a makeover....do something intersting which diverts her mind...

bindu: i will slap her to forget him, find a new one for her

Sneha: well 1st thing will be to never leave the frnd alone to show tht there are others who care for her... love shouldnt hurt the ppl involved so just give her some time and then start introducing her into ur company n telling her that she will get a much better guy in future

Monica: Tell her "He doesnt deserve you. Pack him."

Leena: Make her understand that there is no point in thinking about the guy who doesnt love her

Shilpa: As in when he has no feelings for her, she should understand that he doesnt deserve her
and tell her there are better ones for her in the world

Tanuja: Divert her into other interests she is passionate about.

Anonymous female 1: Show her that he was a useless fellow.

Sriram: if he is a true lover he wont cry becuse his loved once is moving with her loved o so she will be more happy. a true lover wants his/her loved once's happyness..

tsumn: i wud always say...be happy dear, that was not at all ur true love, else she had not eva left u and also thank her, coz she broke wid u, u can live livelier widot ne bonds of commitment

Akhil: Then he should tell her, "i am not able to forget you. I will remember you forever . It was my mistake to break with you. I wanna be with you, live with you, die with you"

Siddharth: Girl is happy without him, so as he is a true lover, he too should be happy for her and tell him that there is no need to be sad.

Muhammed: tough..ma advice wuld be to ask him/her to move on. once d gal likes somebody els, its hard.. soo many things wuld change. hmm.. i don think i can do anything... jus divert his mind. and tell him dat its fate.. u'll always get somebody els..

Charles: I would tell him that she is not worth his love.

Anonymous male 1: Dont let him talk with that girl, distract him if possible get him a new gir

Anonymous male 2: Tell him when he is born only his parents are there with him so only they will be with him forever not someone who comes and goes. so its not necessary that he should feel that much for someone else who came and went off. Ask him to analyse what was the problem in their relationship so that he wont repeat with next girl

Anonymous male 3: I will advice to my friend to take a bottle of alcohol n sit on roadside and booz. If I give good advice he'll never listen.

I found many asking me back, whether it is correct or not after giving their opinions. Some asked me mine.

Mine... ??? All the above.. Yes.. Coz the gist, the essence of each opinion is to be happy.. Thats the ultimate motive. Do what makes you happy. Don't you see that all have different approaches? Take what you like. But be happy. Hope for it. As we all deserve it.

"Love is like a fairy tale in the middle of ordinary life" One of my friends' Facebook status.

A few lines from the movie "When in Rome" charmed me..

"You could get your heart broken or you could have the greatest love affair the world has ever known, but you do not know unless you try. The passion is in the risk."

So true..

Folks.. Happy Valentines Day..

Sources:

Sunday, February 13, 2011

Valentine week - 2


How to get your ex back? Click here

Were you two meant to be together? Click here

Are you two soulmates? Click here

Does he still love me? Click here



Things that could be done on Valentines day for singles(unhappy to be so):

Hmmm...

Some websites suggested to consider Valentines day as a day to express love to anyone we are close to. But arent there enough of other days too.. Mother's day, Father's day, Friendship day..... I heard there are about 160 such days in a year

And in the post Valentine week - 7, I mentioned about single adoption program. Do you wanna be the "third party"? I dont think so if you have already experienced such intervention from people.

So, from what I saw, heard, read I found following effective.

1. Picture your future love relationships: be hopeful, optimistic, and confident. Visualization floods your body with good hormones and positive feelings.

2. Got a lot of singles in your whereabouts and contacts? This way, no one will feel lonely. They can enjoy a night of fun and excitement.

3. Watch a romantic movie. Make sure its a happy ending one. Not alone. With friends. Not in silence. But talking over each scene. Not analysing emotions. Making fun out of the costumes, dialogues and expressions.

4. Write a love letter. Infact if you got a group, have "Love letter competition" The funniest will be awarded first prize. The author of the letter which made anyone cry will be given bumps or gotta pay for the dinner for all.

5. Wish "Happy Valentines day" to everyone you see.

6. Got a couple who lived together for more than 25 years? If not find one. Gift them and have a chat over experiences they had in life when they realised they were meant to be together. How they overcame hurdles of misunderstandings, distrust and all such. Gives you positive vibes and advice about future.

7. "Adopt a soldier and send him/her a Valentine's Day card." Found this suggestion online, but I dont know how in India we could do. If there is a possibility, definitely go with it.


There are certain "Don'ts" on Valentines day. Whoever went through the above links provided, will know it. [;)]

Saturday, February 12, 2011

Valentine week - 3


Top romantic novels.. They definitely have an impact on the cynical outlook a person acquires after heart break (or whatever)

1. Pride and Prejudice

First published - 1813
Author - Jane Austen

Sparks fly when spirited Elizabeth Bennett meets single, rich, and proud Mr. Darcy. But Mr. Darcy reluctantly finds himself falling in love with a woman beneath his class. Can each overcome their own pride and prejudice?

My comments: My alltime favorite. I see the novel as fight between ego and attitude. I find myself closer to the mentality of Elizabeth. So was able to appreciate it a lot.

2. Sense and sensibility

First published - 1811
Author - Jane Austen

The story is about Elinor and Marianne, two daughters of Mr Dashwood by his second wife. The contrast between the sisters' characters is eventually resolved as they each find love and lasting happiness. Through the events in the novel, Elinor and Marianne encounter the sense and sensibility of life and love.

My comments: Truly delight for people who think sensibly. Elinor my favorite.

3. Wuthering Heights

First published - 1847
Author - Emily Bronte

The narrative tells the tale of the all-encompassing and passionate, yet thwarted, love between Heathcliff and Catherine Earnshaw, and how this unresolved passion eventually destroys them and many around them.

My comments: AH!! I can't explain in words how I felt reading this one. You need to think out of the box to understand this one. I literally cried reading the lines of Heathcliff when Cathy dies. How destructive the plot may be, how unchanging cruel the male protagonist may be, I still loved this one.

4. Gone with the wind

First published - May 1936
Author - Margaret Mitchell

American classic in which a manipulative woman and a roguish man carry on a turbulent love affair in the American south during the Civil War and Reconstruction.

My comments: How beautiful the plot, description and everything may be, I have a problem of disliking a story without uniting or atleast poetic justice. So, obviously I wouldn't be able judge this one properly. Have good time reading it.

5. Jane Eyre

First published - 1847
Author - Charlotte Bronte

Jane refuses to become Mr. Rochester's paramour because of her "impassioned self-respect and moral conviction." She rejects St. John Rivers' Puritanism as much as the libertine aspects of Mr. Rochester's character. Instead, she works out a morality expressed in love, independence, and forgiveness.

My comments: I haven't read this yet but heard the story in detail from many people. Each time I sense a different approach, so it must be a thought-provoking one.

6. Love in the time of cholera

First published - Spanish 1985
Author - Gabriel García Márquez

Florentino, rejected by the beautiful Fermina at a young age, devotes much of his adult life to carnal affairs as a desperate attempt to heal his broken heart. A destructive plot yet heart warmer

My comments: Haven't read this one. But from the reviews and people who liked it, could picturise a dramatic simple plot which drown you in itself.

Surprisingly(:P), most of these popular novels are written by female authors.
Another observation is that the top two of my favorite list are written by Jane Austen and both Indian versions have Aishwarya Rai Bachchan in the cast.

Friday, February 11, 2011

Valentine week - 4


Facts about ..... hmmm.. you will understand while reading...

  • 47% of americans over 18 are single
  • About 42% of the nation's workforce are unmarried employees
  • The Census Bureau estimates that about 10% of adults will never marry.
  • 1 in every single woman has a cat, 2 in 5 have more than one
  • The #1 cause of divorce worldwide is infidelity. The #2 cause of divorce worldwide is infertility. The #3 cause of divorce worldwide is unkindness.
  • Women need on average 3 years to get over a relationship that lasted for 6 years. Men need 18 months on average to get over it.
  • However, once women are over it....they have completely finished it and won't regret it anymore...whereas men will usually never completely get over a relationship that lasted for at least 6 years.
  • More couples breakup between December holidays and Valentine’s Day than any other time of the year. In fact, January is considered National Breakup Month.
  • Obscene and Victorian are two words that are not usually in the same sentence. But during the late 1800s racy cards became so popular that Chicago’s post office rejected more than 25,000 cards that were unfit for the mail.
  • 15% of US women send themselves flowers on Valentine’s Day.
  • From Facebook Survey,
  1. A big peak right before Spring Break
  2. Most breakups are announced on Mondays
  3. People like to start the summer being single
  4. A big peak right before Christmas
  5. The lowest day throughout the whole year is Christmas Day (thank God)
:P

Thursday, February 10, 2011

Valentine week - 5


Found this letter online.. A very practical love letter..
Excuse the guy (!! or kid) for his hand writing

Few phrases I came across:

Letting go of someone you love isn’t something you do once – and poof! You’re free, healed, and happy! Rather, letting go is a journey peppered with steps forward and steps backward, good days and bad days, peaks and valleys.

JUL:
Act IV scene 1
What must be shall be. Romeo & Juliet

“Giving up doesn’t always mean you’re weak; sometimes it means you’re strong enough to let go.” – Unknown

Romance and lust are like autumn and spring – short beautiful interludes between blazing summers and freezing winters.

If love can find Napoleon Dynamite - despite his best attempts to ignore it - then it can find anyone. Keep a hopeful outlook. - Dr.Wes Crenshaw

Set your love free,
If she comes back, she is yours
If she didn't, she never was

Wednesday, February 9, 2011

Valentine week - 6


Now, lets get to the root of the problem. You think starting of a relationship? Is that whole issue? No. Its the reason for a break-up. I got about ten reasons for a break-up from a website. As follows.

1. Breaking promises, lying, cheating in relationships. These obvious violations of trust almost always result in relationship problems. If the basic trust in a love relationship is repeatedly broken, problems accumulate and the motivation to stay together decreases. Couples in loving relationships can learn to reconcile their differences – and even survive a physical or emotional affair – without anger or bitterness.

2. Imbalance of power in relationships. Couples may be more likely to split up when one partner has more decision-making power than the other. When one person makes all the decisions about activities, friends, financial matters, household matters, and vacations, the relationship isn’t balanced or loving, and quickly becomes unstable. Both partners should equally share the decision-making power.

3. Acceptance of stereotypes in relationships. This was once a more common reason relationships failed, but it still exists today! Mistaken gender myths include beliefs such as “Men should earn more money than women” or “Women should stay at home and raise the kids.” If couples believe these stereotypes, they create false expectations that can lead to splitting up.

4. Isolation from friends and family. This reason for splitting up is based on fear and insecurity; new couples may isolate themselves from other people because they’re “in love and want to be together.” A brief period of cocooning is normal for many couples, but it’s far healthier to interact with other people regularly.


5. Lack of self-knowledge for couples. If one or both partners aren’t in tune with their own interests, needs, desires, future plans, goals, values, and preferences, then it’s difficult for them to build a better marriage or healthy love relationship. Self-knowledge helps partners communicate who they are and what they want in a relationship, which can prevent problems.

6. Low self-esteem, insecurity, and lack of self-confidence. Relationships fail because one partner feels unworthy of being loved. This insecurity can lead to possessiveness and dependence, which isn’t healthy for either partner in the love relationship.

7. Excessive jealousy in love relationships. “Jealousy is cited as one of the most frequent causes of the breakup of romantic relationships,” writes Roger Hock. Delusional jealousy can trigger abuse and violence, which can (and should) cause a relationship breakup! Delusional jealousy isn’t a common reason for couples to split up, but normal jealousy can be.

8. Ineffective communication in love relationships. Both partners need to be able to share their thoughts, feelings, opinions, values, needs, frustrations, and joys. Sometimes couples avoid speaking honestly and hide their true selves, which may not always lead to a break up…but it doesn’t strengthen their bond!

9. Control issues in relationships. If one partner is trying to control or manipulate the other, the relationship can become weak or destructive. Controlling behaviors include checking up on the partner, name-calling, threatening the partner, requiring the partner to check in all the time, or not allowing any deviations from the schedule. These signs of obsessive love may not cause the couple to split up, but it is a sign of an unhealthy relationship.

(There is a 10th one, I felt not so apt regarding what I am trying to convey. You can have it on the website.)

Now that you have tried to relate with one(or more) of these, NOW put into trash... C'mon. Valentines day is less than a week away.

Remember,
Some times the sense of isolation becomes so strong that many singles tend to “hate Valentine's Day” - the day that is actually meant to celebrate love.

Tuesday, February 8, 2011

Valentine week - 7




Hello Guys,
Valentine week is back..
and after two years I am ready with 7 posts for each day again, but now a lil different
I have dedicated my previous valentine posts for happy couples, married or committed or just simply happily single
what about
unhappy single
single after break-up
single after dumped
single after lost-love
single after dumping
unhappily married
unhappily committed
unhappily broken up
divorced
widow/widower
cheated
Now dont you think its unfair? After all what will be the percentage of people who are happy on Valentines day?
So lets concentrate on this segment of the population (oops.. i mean group) who celebrate SAD valentine's day

What is SAD valentine's day?
never heard of it?

Good.. lets start with the post on SAD valentine's day..

What does WIKI say?

""Singles Awareness (or Appreciation) Day" (SAD) is a humorous holiday, created by Trevor Mcwanda celebrated on February 14 (although some prefer the 13th or the 15th to get away from the commercialism associated with the 14th). It serves as an alternative to Valentine's Day for people who are single, that is, not involved in a romantic relationship. Some people who observe SAD do so out of spite for Valentine's Day, as a Hallmark holiday, or for other reasons.

On Singles Awareness Day, single people gather to celebrate or to commiserate in their single status. Some want to remind romantic couples that they don't need to be in a relationship to celebrate life.

Common activities during Singles Awareness Day include, single events, traveling, volunteering, treating oneself to popular activities, gathering of family and friends, and gift giving for oneself.

On this day many people wear green, as it is considered to be the 'opposite' of red"

"The exact founding of Singles Awareness Day is unknown," said Matt Brick, creator of singleawareness.com, a relatively new information portal.
"Our culture is definitely weighted towards couples, but in the [last] few decades the rise in divorce rates and other changes in society have fueled more single people than ever before."

There is another thingy, SAP.. Singles Adoption Program. Under which couples take out a single with them on Valentines day. :O

Question arises, Am I being supportive or satirical about the above? Well, you will know in later posts ;)

ROMEO:
Is love a tender thing? It is too rough,
Too rude, too boist'rous, and it pricks like thorn. -act 1 scene 4 Romeo & Juliet

Shakespeare's words through Romeo. Dont you agree? Think about it till I'll be back with next.