The routine stuff, a question, few cool
girls and boys and beautiful opinions, to end this day of love. This time it
was different. Got more complex and a lot of thinking involved. Some took days
to answer while some just escaped without answering. Compared to years before,
I guess this time it is more abstract and straight to point, which resulted all
this. So, the question, which probed deep into many people and was exciting for
me to seek answers for is,
"So, when do you know it's
love?"
Keerthi: When you become over cautious around the
person.
Bindu: When you start missing the person in
every activity you do unconsciously, if you do things, which you do not like,
but just for that person.
Deepa: I felt like talking to the person again
& again though we fight a lot and have contrasting opinions, we are poles
apart in everything, but I felt love - which dragged me towards bettering
myself to impress the guy.
Preema: i think when u feel more happy n
excited with the person and in general and you can’t stop thinking about
the person.
Swathi: If you want to be with a person despite
knowing negatives.
Anees: When you don’t hesitate to talk
anything with that person, you don’t mask yourself.
Anonymous1
(female): Love, as I see
it is more about understanding each other and feeling assured that you are
there for each other in times of joy, grief or facing any difficulties. When
you think you are ready to take up all these responsibilities from your end and
be with it enjoying all phases of it equally, may be then you know that you love
the person.
Anonymous2
(female): May be when
you blush. (laughing)
Chaitanya: When you keep thinking about her most
of the time. You miss her right after you part. Whenever you are sad or happy,
she's the first person you want to share with.
Elias: When you miss the person so much that
when you have opportunity to talk to them, you don’t give importance to other
stuff.
Arvind: When you close your eyes you think of
her, when you open your eyes you think of her.
Muhammed: When you are sure, it’s the one and
that you know by some inner feeling.. guts, instinct..
Sachin: Well not just one, could be any of the
conditions like, great comfort level, sticking despite numerous fights.
Rajesh: Probably the moment when one stops
questioning it and take it for granted that he/she is the one.
I have almost equal mix of singles,
couples and wait-and-watch kinds, in age group 18-25 and majorly residing in
metros.
Many asked me mine and this time, I had a
definite answer. Actually that thought was what pushed me to do all this. It
happened as a tweet, which goes like,
“So when do you know you are in love?
When you look like a fool to yourself?”
I haven’t had any epiphanies myself with
this exercise, but one theory came out. I had few people who completely
couldn’t answer my question. But this was majorly because of two reasons. One,
they are singles and also never had feelings for another person or two, they
are afraid that if they think they would realize that had feelings for someone
in the past and let that person go out of whatever reason.
I was flattered by one answer, Rajesh’s.
He explained to me his line. He said, “We meet lot of people every single day
some we hate and we seem interested based on gut feelings and first
impressions. Personally, I don't believe in love at first sight, at first sight,
one may get impressed but that’s not love. So these new faces we see on a
selective basis we take a relationship forward to chatting/talking stage even
for friends but at every stage we have these questions in our mind that is
really he/she the one or is it just the mind playing tricks. So I mean to say
when that questioning stage stops and we really believe in it beyond doubt as
in taking it for granted. So that’s when one realizes. :) “
An answer which is much more valid, and
found when I simply googled for and appeared in one yahoo answers post was as
simple a line as the question was,
“When you don’t have to ask.”
Love is all that you can give or receive
without shortage. Live Love Eat (as Chung Wah restaurant says)
Folks, thanks for responses &
Happy Valentine’s Day!!
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First things first, it's a nice post on realization of love <3 . From the post, it's quite clear that different people view it differently . So , there is no unique instance / cut off which segregates love from other feelings.
ReplyDelete@ Navya: Hope to read your own realization / experience on love <3 ;)
Thank you!! and I hope so too!! :)
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