The depth of love comes from the rigidity of heart. A bond between a man and a woman tends to be so personal that it can never be analysed utilitarian way. My point being, you can never guess the reasons why we "love" someone. Why the feelings are not categorized as "like" or why he/she cannot be considered a friend. Hence it would be stupidity to try to define which can be called love and which does not qualify. Moreover the ultimate pleasure is to love than to be loved. But the sweetness of love fills your heart only if it turns to beautiful bond between two. True, heart feels secure when the feelings are mutual and relationship starts on a balanced note, but pursuing unrequited love with silence only kills your soul slowly and a painful question of what-if for the rest of your life.
This time I got nothing to give a verdict on, the poll is right there and anyone can see the results. May be I should have added a "I don't like this question" option. It would have been different. It might be fine looking at it like, only 1/3rd people said Yes. But, thinking of how they might have been hurt in the process, makes us wish the percentage to be zero. I just wanted people to pound on this question.
I used to attend keyboard classes. I had to travel twice a week for two hours in a car. The driver and I never talk (don't go creepy). He drops me off and waits. I get off without a word. But, I am sure whenever we meet in a different setting, we would recognize and smile. I can vouch that if he needed any help regarding his kids' weddings or profession, I would be of full support. If I am getting married, he would be invited and bless me. These relationships are fine like that in silence. Because it does not need any action per se. While you are lost in someone's thoughts or its rendering you sleepless, you need an action to put yourselves to rest. Hope you have the courage to do it and the patience to share the feelings if things turn favorable.
Psychologists say that the person who rejects someone's love interest might be equally tortured in the process. If you are in that position, only thing you have to do is to not patronize. Only people with self-worth and good self-esteem take the opportunity to express love to someone, even if it might lead to rejection. The only decent thing to do when you can't reciprocate their feelings is to let them go.
Happy Valentines Day Folks!! Remember, Tomorrow is just another day. And also its never a bad day to tell someone you love them.
Sources:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Unrequited_love
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/dr-carmen-harra/dealing-with-rejection_b_3705663.html?ir=India
http://psychcentral.com/lib/10-reasons-you-cant-say-how-you-feel/0002167
https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/thriving101/201102/brain-study-reveals-secrets-staying-madly-in-love
http://www.scientificamerican.com/article/men-and-women-cant-be-just-friends/
http://serendip.brynmawr.edu/bb/neuro/neuro03/web2/csmiga.html
http://amolife.com/reviews/top-20-most-famous-love-stories-in-history-and-literature.html
http://www.goodreads.com/quotes/tag/unrequited-love
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