If no couple starts their story like Laila and Majnun and take a long time to be on the same page, every love must be unrequited at some point right? Let's dig deep into why specifically unrequited love exists. I have come across many sites but there was not much depth. Psychcentral however deciphered the fears in expressing feelings. So here's my modification to our concept.
Fear of changing Status Quo - If you are best friends, you fear losing the existing bond. If you are a colleague, classmate, family friend, you fear losing the current way things are. In short, you fear things might get weird
Fear of losing Ego - Freud might be wrong in many things but I agree with him in the importance of "Id". We might differ in extent but on the whole, ego dictates many of our doings. Expressing ourselves in general itself considered a weak trait in many cultures.
Fear of hurting oneself - Fear of rejection, the most common reason for hiding one's feelings
Hopelessness - There is no point in acting on something which we know is doomed before it even starts, there goes the hopelessness. If the amount of pessimism attached to one's feelings are higher than usual, the tendency is that it leads to unrequited love. Also, low self-esteem can be considered reason for hopelessness
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