I thought after three years of this Valentine's day ritual, I would be drained out of ideas. But it just got started. Look at the above questions that pop up so often in discussing crushes and infatuations. What do you think? Well, that's not my question for this year. But, let's look into this business of so-called one-side love.
One-side love or unrequited love is love that is not openly reciprocated or understood as such. The beloved may or may not be aware of the admirer's deep and strong romantic affections.
I did not say this, wiki said. I just had a panic attack reading wiki page. Is pessimism and melancholy, the only form of poetry, in fact any art that reaches its zenith? I hope not. After all I am a panglossian. But, listen to what various poets and scholars got to say.
Proust - the only successful (sustainable) love is unrequited love
Eric Berne - the man who is loved by a woman is lucky indeed, but the one to be envied is he who loves, however little he gets in return. How much greater is Dante gazing at Beatrice than Beatrice walking by him in apparent disdain
Eric Berne - Some say that one-sided love is better than none, but like half a loaf of bread, it is likely to grow hard and moldy sooner
Dr. Baumeister - What makes a man or woman desirable, of course, is a complex and highly personal mix of many qualities and traits. But falling for someone who is much more desirable than oneself, whether because of physical beauty or attributes like charm, intelligence, wit or status is kind of mismatch prone to find their love unrequited. That such relationships are doomed.
Nietzsche - indispensable...to the lover is his unrequited love, which he would at no price relinquish for a state of indifference
Sometimes writers (including me) tend to speak for everyone, when they are just one of a hell lot. And for scientists, they play on probability and utilitarianism. Let's not overwhelm ourselves with this post and begin on the seven day journey.
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