Valentine Week - 2

Calling on someone is now just a ping and there are numerous sites to think for you in buying loved one a gift or even better, finding that loved one. Our bodies somehow haven't evolved as much as the other facets of life and hearts not more than that. So, while mediums of dating and philosophies of dating came a long way, there are ground rules I found that dictate the falling apart of relationships.

1. Flirting - Its an old principle I have thought of years ago and that's valid now too.

A girl thinks her life has become beautiful and every day comes with a new surprise when she gets a man who makes her feel special each and every moment of togetherness.

3 possibilities arise after this

1)All is fine if this is all only for her and he means whatever he says. Then he is her lover. (positive)
2)If he speaks this way to ten other girls, obviously he doesn't mean what he says, then he is flirt (neutral)
3)If he speaks this way to ten other girls, without each knowing the other, he is a cheat (negative)


Feel free to change the gender.

2. Break up - The one reason that can leave hearts tangled and twisted for a long time if there is no good bye. Even when you messed up with a guy/girl, that's acting on your chances. Not letting the other person know it, makes it worse. Get the courage to say to the face. Ghosting or whatever thing that internet says is being done or fine is not at all fine. Think as if it prepares you to fire someone when you are climbing that corporate ladder you love so much.

"Hey, I don't think we would work." is all it takes (and some kilos of drama you have to handle after).

3. Timing - Time, that old b***h. She can save you or fire you. Do not delay on things that are important to take care of, like rejecting someone who expressed interest in you. Time lets you spin in many lies and it will be too late before you know it. As much as rejection is mortifying to the ego (both), let go of the adoration.

Same principle holds for acting on your feelings too, but less regrettable. Trust me.

4. Ground rules - While on the subject, I Googled what rules are for modern dating after all and found many interesting ideas. Splitting the date cheque, women initiating the first move, keeping details to yourself rather than close friend's assessment. Forget them all. Your partner however boring and normal he/she might be is unique. If not him/her, the bond between any two people is. Finding the right thing to do at all times is the last thing you would know in a relationship. You act based on the circumstances and "Just Go With It".

5. Sorry - Yes, you heard it. The life savior. I was watching this episode in the series Suits today and there was this line about feeling sorry and actually saying it. We might mean it many a times but saying it out loud makes hell lot of difference. "Its never too late to apologize"

Honesty is a tricky concept in relationships. How do you pour all your heart out in one date or even on 100th? There are dirty little secrets in the closet which take years to pop out. But will that bug destroy everything you built till that point? Find that bug and let it out first. How about one ground rule for all this madness? Do not pass on your self-deception to the person you are seeing.