Valentine Week - 6

So as usual, millennial in me, looked through Google first to find the actual things people find attractive in the opposite sex. After all, Google has the power of numbers. But apparently attraction is gender based according to Google.

I guess not all websites concur on many things but have few repeated themes. Women mostly find sense of humour, drive, chivalry, good listening attractive in a guy. On the other hand, Men mostly fall for voice, smile, manners, good listening in a girl. Hey, I am not saying these. Google said so.

Well I have few problems with the lists.

Observation 1: Most of the lists include traits generally attributed to opposite sex. For example, men are generally considered ambitious and so if a woman exhibits this quality, it is assumed to be attractive to men. Women are generally considered to be shy in approach and when a man is shy, it is presumed to be attractive.

Observation 2: These lists try to undermine societal constructs. I wonder why, readership, brownie points for being non-judgemental? For example, they say men need not be sculpted or courageous to win a girl. While women need not be skinny or nibble at food or well behaved to be perceived as attractive.

Observation 3: Another major problem for me is that list includes contradictory statements. Why would an ambitious guy have time to listen to all your small things? Why would a quirky girl have good table manners? A guy might not be risk taking if he is protective of people around and girl might not be curvy if she is self-conscious.

Observation 4: A big chunk of qualities mentioned in the lists are physical attributes. Surprise! That’s not what my results say.

The beauty of the truth is there is no gender bias in attraction. Science or probability does not explain our individual preferences or the timing which lead to attraction. And you might have observed in the start of the reading that good listening is common between sexes in the lists and that I completely agree with. People want to be heard. Give them that if you really care about them. Attraction just follows.